What are you saying about me? some catchphrases I grew up hearing!

Yes there are many things we say as young kids and growing up. It used to amuse me some of the things I heard being said, that I believe would benefit everyone to know. This is me sharing things that have struck me down at times that I can now look back on and laugh at because words are just that, words.

My father once said to me “all you girls talking about me and saying horrid things” and I had to say “it’s okay Dad, they do it to each other it goes round in cycles it won’t last long they will turn to slate someone else” and it is true. It is still true.

All the arguments were one-sided always, and often when I am strong enough I just let them get on with it and let it drift over me. Some quotes I am about to share, you may like to use yourself, or even joke about.

“Don’t judge people on your own standards” well this is such a great quote from a family member, it used to make me think about how much a strange thing to say this was because someone has to say that because thy are comparing their standards to mine! and I honestly took it as a compliment because it shows that I have better standards than that! in my standards! :D

“You think you’re so superior don’t you?” well, this is a thing that was said to me when I was just getting along with everyday things just anywhere any situation and randomly out of the blue. It was often said with deep animosity and it was such a bitter tone to it. So I kind of felt eventually this is someone who thinks very little of themselves and how sad that is, it must be very difficult to be constantly comparing oneself to someone else.

“You think you’re so perfect don’t you?” how anyone could know anything I was thinking, really is full of presumptions and undervaluing themselves big time! And to make a judgement on what is perfect and what isn’t truly is someone with some kind of authority on the subject, if they do have an authority, perfection is never done, so someone who thinks they are perfect truly aren’t ‘perfect’ they have a false conception of perfection and the person who says that to someone is making some presumptions of authority. Who knows what someone is or isn’t even thinking about perfection, they are just happily getting on with life and the accuser has an issue with someone being happier. And making it a question is something truly tragic.

“You’re so selfish aren’t you?” mmmm this one is a very strange concept because to accuse someone of being selfish often presumes that the accuser is aware of someone else’s self-consciousness and this is something so bizarre it doesn’t make sense. I cannot make any sense of this.

“You’re always trying to make yourself look a good” it just is one of those strange things that reflect the fact that the accuser has bad self-image issues and this quote is often used by my sister to me and it always baffles me, in fact all the above quotes baffle and confuse me it used to weaken my self-esteem but now I am conscious of the positivity of feeling good feelings is allowed and being a good person is a nice thing, and enjoying good things are allowed, and life is about enjoying feeling good, we all deserve to feel good. I would be very sad if everyone had to be sad so that everyone wouldn't be allowed to feel good, look good and enjoy good things so I will never deny anyone the pleasure of feeling good and even looking good.

“You don’t deserve anything nice” this was often spoken to me by senior family members it was always targeted at me, because apparently, being the eldest, I somehow had to take the responsibility of the action. That was always said to me, but I always appreciated everything I was given and bought. Very often my things were stolen or destroyed by family members and I had to take the blame. This quote is also something that I had to work on a lot when I left home, having never felt wanted or appreciated that has to be the best thing I ever did was to leave my home county where I never felt accepted, only used and cast out and put down.

Thanks to the fact I kept visioning a life away from those negative words as above yet, they are still being used against me. But hey I am in a better place mentally since my breakdown and that nothing is worth getting intimidated by when you have so much to enjoy in life and appreciate.

My job as an Auntie is to reinforce self-esteem and confidence in my niece and as educating auntie I am focused on empowering children so they can stand up for themselves and each other.