No to being an Emotional Bin: NO!

Many times we take our emotions as being answers but they can also be used to cause someone to cast them out in the hope they will be received and hurt, and that may feel relief to the caster that they have got rid of their emotions inside someone they are upset about or feel something horrid about them that they want to put in front of the person directed towards.

What I realise is that a long time ago I had a husband who would go over and over his past upsets, and he would ask me about mine, but what was also happening was that there was some emotional tug of war going on whereby I would just hope to turn things positively to close the conversation and yet the same issues were brought up again and again and then I realised that my husband had been putting me down, a little cruel and unfair. It was made clear to me by my mental health worker that my then husband had possibly been treating me as if I were a bin for his emotions. Big breakthrough for me and that enabled me to realise how best to adjust.

There are people who cannot help but dump their emotions and feelings onto others, blame others for how they feel and continue dumping and creating the dysfunctional dialogue. Truly it is not helpful. Something I learned as a child is to just carry on, keep faith that things can get better and stay positive no matter what. Life is for living in joy and feeling good, what kind of an existence is it to just feel negative? surely that is not the best way to live there has to be better nicer ways?

For me, I choose forgiveness and I thrive rather than dive into dysfunction and drown trying to bring folk along with them in their swamp and emotional messiness.

There is a great quote that I would like to share, because people who go on and on and on about how hard life is, very much focused on playing victim as they blame others for how they choose to feel. So take a look at the quote in the image.

And don’t fall for the blame game, it is not healthy and it is not good. I love how Prince Harry is standing up to the messy emotional disruptions of his family, it takes great courage and I am totally encouraged by his tenacity and love for his family unit, to stop the negative and dysfunctional ways of families’ own structures. It is all about ending the negative cycle and attempting to create a better way of life.

Don’t accept anymore emotional messiness from anyone anymore and to those dumping: “STOP!”