Bullying in Schools

There were many things I learned from school, though it was not the main learning that we should only rely upon. In the words of the great genius Oscar Wilde:

“The aim of life is self-development. To realise ones nature perfectly - that is what each of us are here for”.

So much of my time being bullied in school was horrendous and I felt was unwarranted and unnecessary it was baffling. Until my Dad’s first heart attack when I realised that what they said, did and damaged were nothing, not important and they made themselves look foolish. With that nothing could affect me! I recall a whole class re-enacting a chanting of my name that had been done to me 4 years before and I just looked at them like: “mmm strange folks looking like acting all strange with odd behaviour they don’t even affect me anymore” and they gave up as I looked at them occasionally only to see how silly they were looking. That was a turning point for me.
Bullying continued and continues only in very different ways, as adults there are many ways to target someone and that often comes from a misaligned view of me, and that is their issue, I don’t take things personally anymore it is some stuff they have that needs to be resolved by themselves as described in the blog on emotional bins.

Gracie taught me that we are all doing our thing, and we are all here to enjoy life, what baffles me is that bullying still goes on. And this time the use of social media and images made which are used against people. This goes beyond toilet watching (yes, some girls tried to watch me going on the toilet while they smoked) this is far more intrusive and can often be passed around forever. Just awful. As parents and aunts and uncles we all need to educate our children into being thoughtful about what they do and conscious of decisions we make at such young ages. It sadly doesn’t matter if your child has a phone, or not, they can and are still affected.

If there is anything we can do at home to stop children from doing these awful shaming of their friends, perhaps a guideline action list before deciding. That is truly what matters. When I heard of this extreme bullying going on it made me think of my niece and what I’d advise her on before she gets to that point. I will share more of my ideas later.

Keep positive and keep caring x