Making Yourself Feel Good and Encouraging Loved Ones to Feel Good

Here, today, I address the matter of doing bad things and how that impacts on ourselves, something else to learn about doing the right things, not the bad things.

For many years a family member has often used the term “You’re only trying to make yourself look good” as if that were something criminal to do. And that made and makes me feel sad, that to be a good person is somehow being selfish, so what is an alternative? I cannot be bothered to go there and as one of my best friends says “Don’t go there, just don’t go there!” So please don’t go there, my emotional pull from my family makes me feel guilty by doing something good.

All I know is doing something good makes me feel good and enables others to feel good. I’m so pleased when someone says “thank you” and mean it, it makes me have that feeling of being appreciated. Appreciation is what drives the universe to energise your experience of living well and abundantly, yes, that simple feeling of thanks giving. 

In a contrast there are few times I’ve done something bad, it didn’t feel good, it left me feeling guilty. One instance I wrote about in my post on Medium, which I named The Charlotte Cycle, it’s not a great place to be if you have done something that is not a good thing to do. That cycle often makes you want to incriminate and blame the other person for the wrong you did to that person. It darkens your soul, not a great feeling. The only way out in my experience of exiting the Charlotte Cycle is to simply admit your guilt, forgive yourself and place your focus on creating more positive experiences. 

Very often I’ve been told growing up “you don’t deserve anything nice” and “you’re spoilt” when in fact that’s untrue but growing up having those things told to me daily repetitively leaches a goodness blocking skin that I have had to break up but I’ve also had to ask myself, do I deserve nice things? Am I a bad person for having nice things? It’s a non-brainer of course we all deserve good things! On this planet we are given choices to make, we either act on them positively or negatively, each attaches a vibration, a feeling. 

Guilt is a toxic feeling so having a bad vibration or two roaming around your soul can breed a resentment and that feeling of “I shouldn’t have done/said that” we are all learning so be kind to yourself and to others, everyone on this planet deserves good things just by being, not at the expense of someone else’s distress or insult though we are all learning. Let’s be good to each other.

Can there be a situation where only goodness is allowed? That all people are good? The answer is yes, but only if people understand what goodness is and what defines doing the right thing, it begins with each of us.

We owe it to our children to feel good and ensure their happiness and generations to come feel the same way.

All the time I wonder, what would it be like if all the world was good? That we may do the wrong thing but learn from it, and choose the better path. What does your life feel like? Ask yourself that question, and next time I will share my experiences of manifestation. 

Gracie sending love and kindness